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Life With A Teenager

This has been at post that I have giving a lot of thought before writing it. I don’t need to be judged when I am sharing my thoughts and feelings.

My oldest kid is a teenager now and our life has not being the same at home. I had to ask my own parents how to act in situations that have arisen these couple of days.



I still remember when he was just a baby and honestly, I am having a really hard time in letting go of this baby. My son has grown to be a smart, respectful boy. But, now he has changed; he talks differently well obviously, his voice has change and is deeper now; The way he dress is has also gone thru a change with him, Goodness!! He is wearing hoodies in this 80 degree weather here in NY. I don’t understand that, but I am not saying anything is his choice and he is the one that will get hot and sweaty.

Also mom and dad aren’t cool anymore, video games are better that a night out and his cell phone is his life.   

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Since he is doing excellent in school daddy wanted to get him something, my son asked for a skateboard, (this is when I close my eyes and said “Hoooo, My lord!!!) I wanted to scream NO WAY!!! But, again I have to let him find his passion for something. Right?

So far I have being ok, with all the changes that has come upon him. However, I still not ready for him to go out with his friends; For instants,  last weekend he asked us if he can go out with his friend to skateboard in the park. First, we don’t have a park close by and second I know kids will go wild if there is not an adult checking on them,  so my first impulse was to say, “NO, the park is too far”, and that was it.

My husband tried to convince me to let him go but, after all noticeable danger on the streets, I am afraid. I am not ready for him to leave the house by himself or even less if is with friends. I know that he has grown but not grown enough to take care of himself.  I still keep him by my side and he has to go where we go, like it or not!!.

 

I am being over protective? Is 13 years old a good time to start letting him go out with friends?

My answers to these questions are, one: Yes, I have to be protective, I think! and  two: 13 years old is still too young for a kid to be in the street. I know these answers maybe wrong but that is how I am feeling inside.

 

Are you going through something similar?. How are you handling the changes that your teenager is having?

 

 

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4 thoughts on “Life With A Teenager

  1. I have two kids, my daughter is almost 21 and my son is 19. I let them go out with their friends on a couple of conditions. The first is that I had to know who they were going out with and they had to be home at a certain time. If any one of those were violated then the gig was up.

    I have a different view on things because I teach in a court school and see what kids can do. You would be surprised the crimes that my students have committed but then I looked at my kids and thought that the lessons I had been pounding in them since they were young might have set in. And those lessons did. My two are in school and nobody has a police record, no addictions and I am not a grandfather.

    Sometimes, we have to remember that our kids are smarter than we think they are and are able to make the right choices.

  2. I have two girls that are now 16 and 13. I remember a few years ago, they wanted to stretch their wings and go to the park or go to the store that was a few doors down. Living in a city, I was hesitant and thought of everything that could happen. But, I also thought of everything that I have taught my girls too – road safety, use of a cell phone, etc. Little by little it started to ease my thoughts. At first, it was an hour at a time with a check in once they arrived and a text to say they were on their way home. Soon, it was no longer an issue and I trusted my children that they knew how to handle any situation that would arise. Thankfully, nothing happened. They gained independence and I gained assurance that they are smart, dependable children.

    #Alittlebitofeverything

  3. With four little girls at home I will be dwelling in teen-hood for about a decade straight. As soon as I release one to their twenties the twins will be entering teen years. Way to think that one out Kristin!

  4. Iveth, I can’t imagine what you’re going through. My girls are 5 and 8 and I let them go across the street to the park (together) alone, but I can mostly see them from my house. I don’t know what I’ll do when they want to “go out” with their friends! This is a very personal decision – only you know your son, his friends (hopefully), and your neighbourhood.

    If it was me I’d start in baby steps. For instance, you can go to wherever for such and such amount of time but you have to be home at ____ time. Or you need to check in with me after so many hours. Maybe try giving him small freedoms and short amounts of time and if he’s good with it and does check in or come home when you ask then perhaps he’s ready for the responsibility of being out unchaperoned.

    I wish you luck!!
    ~Jess
    #ALittleBitOfEverything

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